Why do we have soulmates ?


When we hear the word “soulmate”, the image of a couple holding hands and walking to the path of future happily ever after will come to our mind. If someone tells you that meeting a soulmate is not about being together forever, you might not believe it because that message of being together is what you have been told all these years by online dating sites, media, novels and movies. If you have met your soulmate and you parted, you might automatically think that the one who got away is not your soulmate but your heart tells you that yes, he/she is your soulmate.

What we have to understand is that meeting a soulmate does not mean happily everafter. Meeting a soulmate simply means that we are ready to be awaken and get rid of the old way of thinking in order to walk our spiritual path in this lifetime. Meeting a soulmate also means that we have to experience the essence of love in the purest form without the human understanding of love–which often is need and want. We are educated to want and need love instead of finding love within ourselves and feeling whole without being with anyone but yourself. We are whole all the time. It’s just that you need to feel it inside rather than seeking outside for no one in this world is responsible for our wholeness.

If you are not happy after parting with your soulmate or after your soulmate leave you, then you depend on someone else to give you happiness, that’s one form of need and want. The pain you feel is the good indicator. We need to understand that love is not about being with your soulmate forever, love is about sharing your wholeness, your happiness with your partner. Love is about sharing your wholeness, NOT about being completed by another.

When we meet a soulmate, that means we need to learn the highest form of love–that is unconditional love. We love whether the soulmate is with us or not.

Sometimes soulmates wake us up and point the directions of solving the issues we have always had. Soulmates highlight our issues and make us face issues that have been buried deep in our subconscious mind. For example, if you are afraid of abandonment, your soulmate will magnify this issue and you have to face it. Pain in our heart is the indicator that we have things to be dealt with.

Soulmates carry a special energy — that is the powerful love energy that trigers our issues and let us face those demons with love. If we are not blinded by the human definition of love and open to healing, we can get the most out of it and come out to the other side more relaxed and released.

The one who runs away also has demons to deal with. After both of you have dealt with your demons and release from your own pain, if both of you are calm and feel the peace, you might get a second chance. But whether you choose to be together or not, it does not matter anymore as you have learnt the true meaning of love–the unconditional love, the purest form of love.

So dear readers, now it’s time to look deep within yourself and see what the demons are. You have to look beyond the mirror or the reflection of the pond to find the answers. The answers are within yourself.

Love is two individuals sharing the joy of wholeness rather than seeking completion from each other!

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